1️⃣ some of the best experiences can come from stepping out of your comfort zone, facing your fears, going against the grain, and doing that which defies even your own expectations 2️⃣enjoy the journey instead of being preoccupied about the destination 3️⃣there is a lot that can be learned from others so never underestimate someone else’s potential to teach you something 4️⃣life comes at you fast so it’s ok to take things slow sometimes. Don’t rush what already goes by so quickly 5️⃣time is of the essence and patience is a virtue 6️⃣the best friendships are those that pick up like there was never any time apart 7️⃣it’s better to try and fail than to never try and not know 8️⃣Most “problems” are non-existent. If it can be resolved by action, then it’s not a problem 9️⃣smiling makes everything better (though resting bitch face is comfortable so I’m not saying that won’t be happening😬) 1️⃣0️⃣ONE thing isn’t EVERYthing 1️⃣1️⃣do what makes you happy, not what will make other people think that you are happy 1️⃣2️⃣it’s the small actions and decisions that make big changes 1️⃣3️⃣the only person you have to prove something to is yourself. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you want to be 1️⃣4️⃣the universe doesn’t care if you’re unhappy and things won’t change just because you want them to... if you want to change, then you gotta make moves 1️⃣5️⃣don’t confuse thoughts/plans with actions. You may be thinking a lot about doing something and never actually take the necessary steps 1️⃣6️⃣be positive and be kind- even when it’s hard 1️⃣7️⃣be more afraid of not doing said thing, than afraid of doing it 1️⃣8️⃣life truly does begin when you decide to be brave enough to leave your comfort zone 1️⃣9️⃣quality > quantity 2️⃣0️⃣replace fear with excitement. Stop worrying about what could go wrong and be excited about what could go right 2️⃣1️⃣don’t forget to remember why you started. Don’t complain about the decisions you made 2️⃣2️⃣ faith goes a really long way2️⃣3️⃣be curious and be passionate. Ask a lot of questions and act on your intuition 2️⃣4️⃣ choose to be happy because you can even when you feel like you can’t.
Wednesday, May 6, 2020
Sunday, April 19, 2020
Time
Time.
Before we know it, it has forever slipped out of our hands and there is absolutely nothing that we can do to get it back. We can only learn and agree to use the rest that we have left, to do more and be more than we were previously.
The good and the bad news is that time is finite. This is a good thing because it reminds us of the value of every moment. We aren’t just existing. We are creating realities in a measurable spectrum, in an immeasurable capacity. We have so much potential as human beings to create, imagine, and bring about change.
How can one allow time to be on his or her side? By being conscious and aware. By caring about how you spend it! By saying no to certain things.
Time was given to us for free. It’s not a gift, it’s a privilege. The time we have now was not paid for. We didn’t have to fight for time on this earth.
Time is not on your side. But only if you don’t allow it to be.
(And especially now while many of us are in quarantine, you still have the power to make decisions about what to do with it.)
Monday, March 23, 2020
Wisdom from the Batcave
Currently reading “Wisdom from the Batcave” by Cary Friedman. I figured it would be nice to share some of his ideas about dealing with adversity, considering the fact that we are all dealing with adversity right now in the face of coronavirus.
💡We can always choose how to respond to difficulties and challenges. It's easy to succumb to anxiety and fear and to wallow in self-pity. The true test is to face the difficulties that confront us and try to impose order in our messy lives.
💡”Misfortune creates opportunities for personal growth, development, and refinement of character.” Use every opportunity to develop and refine yourself. Now is a great time to do this considering that many of us are off from school and work (online school is basically off from school, let’s be real😉). Though it comes with challenges, we have more time now than ever to spend with our immediate families, start or finish a project that is long overdue, and even reconsider the paths we are taking. Facing the truth of your reality may be hard for you, and that in itself is an opportunity to build up resilience and make some important changes in your life.
💡Generating some light, even if it’s a little bit, begins to dispel the darkness that surrounds us. Stay positive for not only your sake but also those who rely on you and who must now be in your presence for much of their time. Be there for each other, and share your positivity with friends and extended family too.
💡Our personal pain, fear, and struggles can harden us or make us more empathetic and caring towards others. Right now we all need to support each other and when better to do this when we are all in the same boat? Allow this experience to make you kinder, more understanding of others, and more giving of your time and energy to those who might need it. Call a friend, send a message… it’s easier than ever right now to communicate from a distance.
💡We can always choose how to respond to difficulties and challenges. It's easy to succumb to anxiety and fear and to wallow in self-pity. The true test is to face the difficulties that confront us and try to impose order in our messy lives.
💡”Misfortune creates opportunities for personal growth, development, and refinement of character.” Use every opportunity to develop and refine yourself. Now is a great time to do this considering that many of us are off from school and work (online school is basically off from school, let’s be real😉). Though it comes with challenges, we have more time now than ever to spend with our immediate families, start or finish a project that is long overdue, and even reconsider the paths we are taking. Facing the truth of your reality may be hard for you, and that in itself is an opportunity to build up resilience and make some important changes in your life.
💡Generating some light, even if it’s a little bit, begins to dispel the darkness that surrounds us. Stay positive for not only your sake but also those who rely on you and who must now be in your presence for much of their time. Be there for each other, and share your positivity with friends and extended family too.
💡Our personal pain, fear, and struggles can harden us or make us more empathetic and caring towards others. Right now we all need to support each other and when better to do this when we are all in the same boat? Allow this experience to make you kinder, more understanding of others, and more giving of your time and energy to those who might need it. Call a friend, send a message… it’s easier than ever right now to communicate from a distance.
Sunday, February 23, 2020
How to be happy despite conflicts and struggles | from a psychiatrist
Currently reading Let Us Make Man by Psychiatrist Dr. Abrahama Twersky.
He makes several points about self-esteem and happiness that really expanded my views on these topics.
Happiness can exist without 100% contentment
We are never going to be fully content. As humans, that is not natural. We are always striving for more and better.
We can be striving and not fully satisfied YET happy at the same time.
Happiness can coexist with discontent.
It allowed me to feel I have the permission and ability to not have everything I want/need and still be happy.
Sometimes I feel that I need to work harder to earn that happiness, but this reminds it is natural to want more, yet should not confine ourselves to only allowing ourselves to feel happy when we attain that said thing.
We don't always know the meaning that things have.
As humans, we have limited capacity to understand things on a higher level. That is, limited perspective. We see things happening to us on only one level and from one angle. We don't know what it could mean for us in the future and why those things happen. Ever have something seemingly negative happen and then you realize later on that it had a higher place and purpose in your life?
It's good to have faith
If not in G-d or higher power or force... then in the idea that there are things happening that we could not possibly understand how it could be good in any way.
Related to the topic above: there could be something beyond har we see, know and comprehend.
Trust that your suffering or challenges are not in vain, that there is some transcendental purpose. While it does not remove the pain or answer why these things happen to us, it can give us the courage and strength to deal with tragedy and struggles.
Accepting adversity with happiness
Accepting adversity with happiness in the sense of faith and trust allows us to feel joy from other events in life that warrant true joy.
Accept that conflict is natural and so choose to be happy despite it
We are so obsessed with resolving conflict, that we forget that we can still be happy despite it. We instead must learn to cope with it and overcome it.
He makes several points about self-esteem and happiness that really expanded my views on these topics.
Happiness can exist without 100% contentment
We are never going to be fully content. As humans, that is not natural. We are always striving for more and better.
We can be striving and not fully satisfied YET happy at the same time.
Happiness can coexist with discontent.
It allowed me to feel I have the permission and ability to not have everything I want/need and still be happy.
Sometimes I feel that I need to work harder to earn that happiness, but this reminds it is natural to want more, yet should not confine ourselves to only allowing ourselves to feel happy when we attain that said thing.
We don't always know the meaning that things have.
As humans, we have limited capacity to understand things on a higher level. That is, limited perspective. We see things happening to us on only one level and from one angle. We don't know what it could mean for us in the future and why those things happen. Ever have something seemingly negative happen and then you realize later on that it had a higher place and purpose in your life?
It's good to have faith
If not in G-d or higher power or force... then in the idea that there are things happening that we could not possibly understand how it could be good in any way.
Related to the topic above: there could be something beyond har we see, know and comprehend.
Trust that your suffering or challenges are not in vain, that there is some transcendental purpose. While it does not remove the pain or answer why these things happen to us, it can give us the courage and strength to deal with tragedy and struggles.
Accepting adversity with happiness
Accepting adversity with happiness in the sense of faith and trust allows us to feel joy from other events in life that warrant true joy.
Accept that conflict is natural and so choose to be happy despite it
We are so obsessed with resolving conflict, that we forget that we can still be happy despite it. We instead must learn to cope with it and overcome it.
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Sunday, February 16, 2020
4 Steps to Overcoming Your Fears | Chronic Anxiety to LOVING Life
I talk a lot about fear and anxiety that I have overcome.
I want to share with you how I have overcome my fears so well, that I am doing things today that I could have only dreamed about 10 years ago.
Overcoming fears takes a lot of energy and you have to be intentional because it is unlikely that you will overcome them if you don't try to.
Sometimes we grow out of our fears but here I am talking about those ideas and beliefs that you have ingrained in you and may be causing issues for you as you grow older.
Watch the Youtube video here
Also, you want to face the root of your issues because once you do, you understand why you have other struggles. Overcoming my core fears and understanding how they have affected me has allowed me to lead an overall healthier and more fulfilling life.
#1: Become aware of your fears
You need clarity when it comes to understanding your psychology. Take time to be with yourself and reflect.
Write them down. list them out.
#2: Meditate on how developed and from where they come
Think about your childhood, thought patterns, how you were raised, etc.
Clarity comes through reflection.
Try to think back to when those fears or unhealthy thoughts started. What is your first memory of your fear?
Through thinking about it all you can come to understand your own psychology and how things played out in your life.
You can pick up on things you didn't before.
#3: List out how they help you and how they hinder you
Realize the roles they play in your life.
Ex: fear of not being perfect hinders me because it overwhelms me with the idea that if I'm not perfect then I'm not enough which leads into a self-esteem issue and lack of self-worth. It helps me because it motivates me to be involved, active and get more done.
#4: Run towards them, put yourself in situations where you face your fears
Fear is a mechanism for survival.
Do not avoid your fears, embrace them.
Use it to your advantage to propel you forward.
You can even try to work backwards- starting from where you want to be and thinking about what you would need to do to get there/that.
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Tuesday, February 11, 2020
How To Let Things Go For Good | Brain Hack
Ready to move on from something or someone, but need a way to process for much-needed clarity and closure?
I have a technique I use that always makes a huge difference.
Watch my youtube video here to hear it :)
I have a technique I use that always makes a huge difference.
Watch my youtube video here to hear it :)
Monday, February 10, 2020
4 Ways to Deal With Sensitivity | Difficult People
We all deal with being sensitive on some level. Or maybe if we aren't so sensitive, but we still have our moments.
Other times, we aren't just being sensitive. People can be mean and we have to learn how to properly deal with those who are emotionally underdeveloped.
Sensitivity is something I had to overcome at a young age. As a child, I was the one who was always upset. Also having been extremely shy and socially anxious, I was always afraid someone would say something hurtful and expected that people would.
That, as you can imagine, caused many issues for me. I had to learn to overcome that strong emotion and realize that many (if not most or all of the time) these feelings were not necessary.
There were several things I had to come to understand, and I am still learning about how to be more emotionally healthy all the time. Here are some things you can refer to when you need to step back and recalibrate:
1. Realize that not everything is about you.
The way a person behaves, speaks, what they say and how they say it (even when interacting with you) have nothing to do with you. Most of the time we don't know what is going on in another person's life. Maybe they just lost someone, maybe they're just insecure, maybe they just had a bad interaction with someone else and that's why they're acting rude and cold towards you. Maybe they are sensitive and afraid, and so have built a wall to show that they aren't. The way another person presents themself to you has nothing to do with you.
2. Building up resilience is always important because there will be times when people are nasty.
This is the type of advice that mothers give their kids when they're being bullied at school. However, as I get older, I have come to realize that bullying can happen anywhere at any step in the game. In the workplace, especially. It is sad that this is how it is, and it really is unacceptable... but it's inevitable that at some point we will have to overcome the emotions that come with being hurt. Therefore, it is wise for us to arm ourselves with resilience and to prepare ourselves to deal with other people's inabilities to cope with their own emotions.
"Hurting people hurt people." Ever heard of this? It's so insanely true. Happy people do not go around making other people miserable. Think about it: when you're in a good mood, you have no desire to hurt others. You don't need that validation that you have that kind of power over people, and no need to make somebody feel bad about themselves.
Some of my other points are referring to when we are being overly-sensitive, but this point is really for everybody. We must learn to bounce back from feeling hurt, afraid of rejection, and disappointment in others for how they behave towards us.
3. We cannot control others, we can only control ourselves.
You cannot determine what other people will say or feel about you. You can only control how you choose to respond. Yes... you can choose how you will respond even when you're feeling angry, hurt, and bitter.
When you do find yourself in a situation like this, make sure to step back and take some deep breaths. Realize that you're trying your best and are not a bad person. Your feelings are valid and you are not deserving of ill-treatment. Remember that your goals are to focus on yourself and that the only validation you truly need is from yourself. Remember that there is no reason to stoop to that person's level. You are better than that. You are amazing. Amazing people don't need to put others down.
3. Stay in your lane, focus on yourself (you deserve to).
You don't need to spend time recalling what other people said or did to you (though this is challenging sometimes). You have an amazing life that you're continuing to create and build. Put your energy on that. Focus your energy and attention on the positive aspects of whats going on around/to you. Don't give hurting people the right to make you feel hurt.
Get back to focusing on yourself, your goals, mission, dreams...
Don't give rude people space in your mind.
Don't let others live rent-free in your brain.
Other times, we aren't just being sensitive. People can be mean and we have to learn how to properly deal with those who are emotionally underdeveloped.
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| To watch the video, go here! |
That, as you can imagine, caused many issues for me. I had to learn to overcome that strong emotion and realize that many (if not most or all of the time) these feelings were not necessary.
There were several things I had to come to understand, and I am still learning about how to be more emotionally healthy all the time. Here are some things you can refer to when you need to step back and recalibrate:
1. Realize that not everything is about you.
The way a person behaves, speaks, what they say and how they say it (even when interacting with you) have nothing to do with you. Most of the time we don't know what is going on in another person's life. Maybe they just lost someone, maybe they're just insecure, maybe they just had a bad interaction with someone else and that's why they're acting rude and cold towards you. Maybe they are sensitive and afraid, and so have built a wall to show that they aren't. The way another person presents themself to you has nothing to do with you.
2. Building up resilience is always important because there will be times when people are nasty.
This is the type of advice that mothers give their kids when they're being bullied at school. However, as I get older, I have come to realize that bullying can happen anywhere at any step in the game. In the workplace, especially. It is sad that this is how it is, and it really is unacceptable... but it's inevitable that at some point we will have to overcome the emotions that come with being hurt. Therefore, it is wise for us to arm ourselves with resilience and to prepare ourselves to deal with other people's inabilities to cope with their own emotions.
"Hurting people hurt people." Ever heard of this? It's so insanely true. Happy people do not go around making other people miserable. Think about it: when you're in a good mood, you have no desire to hurt others. You don't need that validation that you have that kind of power over people, and no need to make somebody feel bad about themselves.
Some of my other points are referring to when we are being overly-sensitive, but this point is really for everybody. We must learn to bounce back from feeling hurt, afraid of rejection, and disappointment in others for how they behave towards us.
3. We cannot control others, we can only control ourselves.
You cannot determine what other people will say or feel about you. You can only control how you choose to respond. Yes... you can choose how you will respond even when you're feeling angry, hurt, and bitter.
When you do find yourself in a situation like this, make sure to step back and take some deep breaths. Realize that you're trying your best and are not a bad person. Your feelings are valid and you are not deserving of ill-treatment. Remember that your goals are to focus on yourself and that the only validation you truly need is from yourself. Remember that there is no reason to stoop to that person's level. You are better than that. You are amazing. Amazing people don't need to put others down.
3. Stay in your lane, focus on yourself (you deserve to).
You don't need to spend time recalling what other people said or did to you (though this is challenging sometimes). You have an amazing life that you're continuing to create and build. Put your energy on that. Focus your energy and attention on the positive aspects of whats going on around/to you. Don't give hurting people the right to make you feel hurt.
Get back to focusing on yourself, your goals, mission, dreams...
Don't give rude people space in your mind.
Don't let others live rent-free in your brain.
#personalgrowth #selfimprovement #successfulpeople #dowhatyoulove #empowerment #lovinglife #overcomeobstacles #herincrediblemindset #innergrowth #newmindset #mindsetshift #growthquotes #millennialtherapist #mentalhealthmatters #intentionalliving #healthyhabits #selfcare #selflove #happylifequotes #journeyoflife #selflove #selfimprovement #goalsetting #dreambigworkhard #letsdothis💪 #herewego #bossbabe #personaldevelopment #growthmindset🌱 #happyandhealthy #ilovemyself #ilovelife #thegoodquote #mytimetoshine #betterme #bettermemission #icanachieveanything #iamawinner #lewishowes #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen #womenofimpact #impacttheory
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