Humans naturally rate themselves based on how others see them. If others look at us a certain way, there must be something wrong. If people reacted negatively, they must have reacted that way because we said or did something unacceptable or "not normal."
Just earlier this year, I had come to the realization, though I may have a bit slowly, that determining if we are "right" or "proper" as individuals based on others' views, is not only foolish and self-destructive, but also completely lacks any logical reasoning whatsoever.
First off- people are unstable. We all know this. We all have good and bad days, days we are the social butterflies, and days we want to be alone. I realized that whenever I would have a nice conversation with somebody right before the end of the school day, I would feel really happy and accepted, but when I would not have a conversation or have someone smile at me, I would feel as if I had a "bad" day. However, maybe the other person just did not feel like talking (maybe even it was I who wasn't in the mood to strike up a conversation) or didn't even think to have a conversation. Basically, I would rate myself and my day based upon how others acted towards me (or maybe not even towards me, I just took their not speaking to me or coming up to me personally). Well, in case this sounds like you too, stop doing this to yourself. People are people, which leads me to my next point.
We all know we do it too. We all have those moments when we just don't feel like being social or smiling. Now imagine having someone feel sad when you don't smile at them or say hi to them. You would just think that they have an insecurity issue or something of the sort. However, we people tend to feel sensitive towards others actions. Now that we realize how silly it really is, let's stop.
Last point: who cares? Really. I am not trying to be one of those "I don't care about anything, just want to be mature" people, but logically- why determine how to act based on others' perceptions. Just as long as you are friendly and an overall "good" person, you're fine.
So now . . .
1. Realize that all people are different.
2. Realize that you are not the girl giving you a strange look, or the girl who you think is weird. You enjoy different things, have had different experiences, and are clearly . . . well . . . different.
3. Understand that it is OK to be who and how you want to be.
4. Accept yourself and accept others.
5. Do what you feel is right. Nobody likes when people try too hard. Stand your ground, be your own person.
6. Don't lower your standards or act a certain way in order to "fit in". Have self-worth and pride. You most probably won't know these people forever, so do what will make you proud of yourself when you look back one day.
7. Finally, whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.
Love that one.
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