Saturday, October 5, 2013

Overcome a Moment of Sadness

We all have those moments when we feel sad. Wether its because of a recent breakup or just . . .well . . .because, there are several tactics that I use to get out of the down feelings. These may help you just as they help me:

1. Remove yourself from the electronics- Social media sites, phones and the television have their negative affects as well as their positive. Sometimes, it is important to just refresh your state of mind and focus on yourself instead of everything else's that is going on with your friends and your social media site acquaintances. Detach yourself from all of the information and allow your mind to rest from all of the drama, "excitement" of others' lives, and television pleasure.

2. Write down your feelings and thoughts in a diary or journal- I have a journal that I have been writing in for the past seven years. Whenever I feel sad, I pull it out and jot down how I'm feeling. Sometimes I don't even know why I'm sad or what to say about my current mode. Then I end up going on a tangent about writing about whatever I want and somehow get to this elevated happy feeling and end up writing positively. After about 10-15 minuted writing in my journal, my mood shifts from negative to positive.

3. Step outside into the quiet- Find a nice relaxing place to visit whenever you need a break from your daily life. DO NOT use this time to go on the internet or check out your friend's text. This time is for YOU. Lye down, think, don't think, just relax. Breathe in slow and feel the fresh air on your skin. Think of how pretty the world is, how wonderful life could be, how positivity results in happiness. JUST RELAX. Your mood should naturally shift to a positive state.

    OR, go on a bike ride. There is something wonderful about riding a bike and just feeling the breeze through your hair. It's soothing and fun. Also, taking light walks alone or while talking to someone you trust (whichever you prefer), can also be helpful. Nature is a natural antidepressant. Really, it is.

4. Do something nice for somebody else- this may sound silly because it seems that all of the focus should be on you if you want to make yourself feel better. On the other hand, studies show that doing a kind act for another can make one happy. Its like being nice to yourself. You feel even better as the doer than the receiver. If you're planning on going out somewhere, hold the door for the person behind you or smile at somebody.

5. Don't be afraid to show your feelings- I don't mean that you should begin crying and talking to everybody about your feelings, but that you should not constantly conceal how you truly feel. Scientific fact: those that constantly hide their true feelings behind a mask of smiles and talking are less likely to attain happiness. you don't always need to showcase happiness and an ability to upkeep with social encounters. Everybody has their ups and downs, and it is alright to keep to yourself and solve your own problems quietly if you need to.

6. Do what makes you feel good- go on a run, listen to a song that you know will cheer you up, talk to somebody you trust, write yourself a letter, write a post on your blog.

7. Understand that you are simply awesome- You were born for a reason. You have a unique purpose. No other person in this world has experienced all that you have experienced, because, well, if they had they would be you. And they're not. So there you go. Create an awesome life for yourself, because you were born to be awesome.

8. Turn on some loud music and dance- DANCE,DANCE,DANCE, dance away your fears, worries, anger, hurt, all that stuff. Just dance to the coolest, most exciting song you know as if to say, "I am deciding to enjoy my life." Lets make it this simple.

9. Try to restrain from elevating yourself through temporary substitutes- people usually go for food or partying. Try to stay away for quick fixes. Do what will truly make you feel good on the inside and in the future. 

If you're still feeling somewhat sad, take a listen to "Lost" by the wonderful Michael Buble:





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