How to Move On

Realize That There Is More to Life

Ever feel like this? Take a listen:

Your past is gone and life goes on. Though it may not be perfect and you are not happy with it, IT GOES ON. Meaning, you still have time to get what you want. If you didn't, then life would be over (literally). 

You know what I mean?

Allow your past to strengthen you, not make you bitter. Learn from it, use it as a platform from which to improve, think of it as an inspiration. 

Either you can accept what has happened and wish you could change the past (which we all know is not (yet?) possible), or you can grow from it and inspire others. 

You decide. Really, YOU do. And even if life knocks you down again, that's ok. That's what life is. It's never perfect, but you have the power to change it for the better. 

Check out this famous story of a boy who did not allow his condition to keep him from being happy. He has a message to share with the world: 

People who made it:

Justin Bieber- was poor, grew up without a father, taught himself to play multiple instruments, one of the world's most famous singers

Abraham Lincoln- born in a log cabin, family struggled to survive and learn, taught himself while working on a farm, USA's 16th pres

J.K. Rowling- lost her mother at a young age, divorced and left with a child, was on welfare, was diagnosed with depression and contemplated suicide, sold 400 million books and is worth 1.1 billion dollars

Jim Carrey- worked 8 hours a day while in school, lived in a camper van with his family, did stand-up routines and was able to land gigs, one of the most highly paid comedians

Oprah Winfrey- born to unwed teens, raised by poor grandmother, ran away from home, academically successful, radio host to news anchor to television host to having her own television show, channel, and magazine, now worth 3 billion dollars

Do What You Gotta Do

Even if there is nobody who believes in you and your goals, this is your life and so you can do what you need to do to achieve happiness. 

If your "friends" dont want you to change (in this case for the better, for the sake of your happiness), then maybe they aren't your friends. If you end up having to let some people exit your lives, then maybe they aren't needed. If they're holding you back and don't make you happy, what good are they anyway?

Would you rather be alone or with people who make you feel alone?

If you have a situaution in which you absolutely must keep a realtionship, find a way in which you can keep it AND your goals.

Taylor Swift had no friends in middle school, but still purued her dream of being a singer. While she was singing at stadiums, learning guitar, and making a name for herself in Nashville, other kids her age were wasting their time laughing at what would lead her to fame.

Think about it this way: What would you do if today was your last day?

Hhhmmm . . . Nickelback has some nice advice . . .

  

 Choose Your Friends Wisely

The people who you surround yourself with have a lot to do with your happiness and self- image. This is true for two reasons:

1. If your friends do not respect you, you will come to think lowly of yourself and have unhappy and unhealthy relationships. 

2. "Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are." I don't know who said that, but I am positive that it is indeed true. Think about it- you tend to behave more like the people who you spend your time with. 

Try to surround yourself with people whom you can learn from (and if you can't, learn from a distance). I have found that learning something big or small from everybody I meet is really rewarding and beneficial. Even if I am not really fond of somebody, I can find something about them that I would like to possess and work towards that. This actually helps me to get along better with people and makes me appreciate them more. 

If you encircle yourself with people who you desire to be like or who have similar goals, you will be more likely to become like them and achieve your desires. 

Stay Positive

POSITIVE THOUGHTS CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE! 

This is so true that I can guarantee you that you will feel and see a change once you begin thinking positively about yourself, your plans and your future. 

Positive thinking is not always easy to attain, but it is very well possible. 

Try this: take a piece of paper and write down a list of phrases that begin with "you are . . ." (beautiful, smart, meant for great things, worthy of love, etc). Whatever works for you! Next, (and this sounds embarrassing and stupid) tape this paper to your mirror or somewhere else in your bedroom or bathroom or wherever you would like, and say them every morning to yourself. You don't even have to look in the mirror, but you would get a better sense of self. Say them multiple times if you have to, scream them if you want. As you say them over and over again regularly, you will naturally begin to believe those phrases. And when you believe something, you act accordingly. If you believe that you are beautiful, you will act beautiful . . . etc. 

Another activity that you might want to try is to everyday write down something you are thankful for. 
I used to have a list of things that I am thankful for. Everyday I would write down one thing, person or experience that I am thankful for. I wrote very specific things and by the end of the year I had multiple papers of lists of things that I should always remember I am lucky for having. 
This kind of activity will make you realize that even if you're missing something major in your life, you still have something(s). It gives you a greater sense of appreciation for your life and a greater feeling of overall happiness. 

COOL FACT!!! Scientific studies actually show that having positive thoughts can affect your brain and its overall health. Positive thinking can affect your brain's health, and in turn, your life!

"The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne had become ​a bestselling book a couple of years ago. It is about positive thinking and how people can achieve their greatest dreams by attracting all that they want to themselves by believing in those possibilities. Take a look at this inspiring video. This is how you should see yourself when you recite your list in the morning:

Continue With Your Plans

Finally, and of course this is the last step, JUST KEEP MOVING FORWARD!!

Because what else are you going to do, right?

You decide: move on and take the reighns of your life OR let the circumstances of your life lead the way.

Have you ever seen the movie Meet the Robinsons? 

A wonderful quote from the movie is to "Keep moving forward."

Louis, the main character, is an orphan who just so happens to be a smart kid inventor. Only thing is his inventions don't exactly work. Just as he is about to give up, he is encouraged by his friend Wilbur and eventually enters his future and the saying his future self came up with: keep moving forward.  He learns that if he does just that he will eventually have the future . . . basically, keep moving forward. 

Things To Remember Everyday

1. Be thankful for what you have. If you just look up to the sky and say thank you every time you experience a moment of happiness, you will automatically be more perceptive to when good things happen to you.

2. Smile, hold your shoulders back, stand up tall. Doing these will help you feel more confident and make you look more poised.

3. Say "well," not "good." Speaking properly has a great affect on how you feel about yourself and how others perceive you.

4. Think of something you can learn from everyone you meet. Especially from those who you dislike and have to deal with on a day to day bases. This will make you appreciate others more and there fore make interaction with others more interesting.

5. Everybody has a story so be open minded with others. Talking to other people and hearing others' unique stories can really open up your eyes to exciting ideas towards life. There is a fulfilling feeling that comes with really listening to somebody and learning for him or her.

6. It's always better to be the bigger person. Handle the naughty with class and absolutely never steep to a level below your intelligence.

7. Don't worry TOO much. A little bit of anxiety can be good, but never allow anxiety to take over your life. Just enjoy life and do the best you can.

8. Don't be afraid to take risks. Not the life-threatening ones, but those that make life exciting. Step out of your comfort zone a bit and just see what happens if you do that thing you have been longing to do. For your own fun.

9. Think of every difficult experience as a lesson or blessing in disguise. Try to grow from hardships. You will end up stronger and more confident in your ability to overcome challenges. Hardships come with life, so all you can do is respond to them to them to the best of your ability.

10. Surround yourself with good people. The people you allow to enter into your life have a great affect on who you are. People tend to mirror the people whom they spend time around, so watch who you spend your time with.

11. There really is nothing to fear but fear itself. Imagine all of the things you could have done if you were not afraid to do them. It really is to think back and say, "Wow, I'm happy I did that," rather than, "I wish I did that."

12. It does not matter what people think. If people have to the time to think of and make fun of others, they are the unfortunate ones. Either way, we are all little specs in the spectrum of things. Just know who you are because that is really all that matters. Act like boss, because you are. At least of your own life.

13. Be nice. Smile at somebody (yes, you can do this without being creepy), hold the door for the person behind you (if they don't say :thank you," just let it roll off of your back and be proud of yourself for making a kind gesture), give a sincere compliment (people love to be appreciated and the person will be grateful for the confidence-booster). By giving to others, we are giving to ourselves. When you do kind for others, we automatically feel good too. Now, this is not to say that we should be nice to make ourselves feel better, but that being kind is beneficial to both the giver and the receiver.