Are you in a situation where your anxiety is getting in the way of your having a good time?
Do you just want to get rid of your anxiety quickly- just know what to do right now to get rid of the heartrending feeling?
Well, I have some quick fixes for ya'll.
These work every time.
Whenever I start to feel anxiety creeping up on me, I wip out these two tools.
When you pretend like it's not there, it's like it really isn't.
Ignore it. Block out the negative thoughts. Do the most kung fu pow move you have been saving up for serious business shit.
When we are not focusing on the fact that we're anxious or feel pressure, we don't feed our anxiety, so we are not affected by the anxiety that could possibly be affecting us because we are not thinking about it.
Seriously, just turn off the negative thoughts. Just don't think about them.
And if you find yourself having a hard time blocking these thoughts out, then just keep blocking them out and think positive.
Think about something happy, something exciting.
Imagine getting a good grade on your upcoming exam. Think about how much fun you're going to have at an upcoming event. Think about something you're excited for. Just think about good, happy things.
And if the negative thoughts keep coming (cuz some of us are just so stubborn, we can't back down even against ourselves), then just keep thinking about the positive.
Don't get annoyed at yourself. Don't get angry about the fact you can't get rid of the negative thoughts, and most definitely do not allow yourself to become stiff.
Just relax, take a breather, and keep accepting the positive and ignoring the negative.
Bottom line- ignore it. Cuz when you're not thinking about it, you can't be affected by it.
The way you perceive yourself is the way you act.
This technique is so wonderful and helpful!! I just figured it out!
Sometimes when I feel anxious around certain people or a lot of people, I think to myself that everybody likes me.
I tell myself and make myself believe that I'm accepted by and get along with everybody.
When you tell yourself something, you start to believe it. Psychological fact.
Also, when you act like everybody likes you (not cocky, just confident), then people view you as somebody who is liked by others.
When you act shy, timid, and like a victim, people are more likely to treat you like a shy, timid, sensitive person. Or, they take advantage of your weakness and try to put you in their positions of feeling low. Remember when you would get your feelings hurt by somebody in school and your parents would say that they put you down to lift themselves up. Well, it's true. Think about it: why would somebody who is happy with themselves and confident, want to to put somebody else down? They wouldn't.
Whenever I start thinking about how I don't have so many good friends amongst a certain group of people, or that a certain group of people don't "like" me enough for me to feel comfortable around them- I tell myself that I'm friendly and nice, and that everybody appreciates my presence.
Now, of course, I also make sure that I'm not actually acting annoying and stuck up (in an attempt to cover up my anxiety).
I just act nice and talk when I have something to say (and if I don't have anything to say or to add to the current conversation, then I just wait for something that I can contribute to).
Do not make yourself a victim.
Do not allow your anxiety to make you perceive that everybody dislikes you, or that you
don't belong.
It would happen to me all the time that my anxiety would result in me legitimately believing that people did not like me and that people were staring\talking about me. I was so affected by my anxiety, that the pressure would add up and result in me breaking down or acting stiff. As a result, I couldn't socialize or even act normal. It took time for me to get myself out of this mindset and to not allow my anxiety to overcome my common sense.
So, in conclusion:
Ignore it. Think positive.
Perceive yourself positively and you will reflect that positivity and confidence off to others.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Saturday, October 18, 2014
The Secret to Getting Rid of Fear (and why you need to get rid of it NOW)
This is a quick post- something that I thought about the other day. I was thinking about my music and what I want to do with it.
However, every time I imagine myself performing in front of people, I get nervous and feel like there is no possible way that I will be able to overcome my fear of performing in front of a crowd.
Being that I was in the middle of studying and couldn't write a blog post right away, I wrote myself a little side note:
"Never be afraid
Just have confidence
Because when you screw up, nobody will know what you really have
Nobody will care"
I realized that if I don't just force myself to ignore my fear (I will post tips for this below) and won't act with confidence, I will never get anywhere with my music. Psht, I will never get anything done that makes me intimidated in the slightest bit.
If I don't have confidence when singing (or doing anything- apply this to your situation), then my voice will not come off as very strong and the quality of my music won't be all that great. Nobody will ever know what I'm actually capable of. I will never be able to give them my best. My real ability will go to waste because nobody will know about it BECAUSE I was too nervous while singing. And in the end, nobody will care because nobody will KNOW.
I don't want my possible success to be cut short because of fear.
I often think about the quote. "There is nothing to fear but fear itself"- Franklin Roosevelt
It is so true.
Unless of course, one is afraid of jumping off of a building or is afraid of petting a bear- that kind of fear is obviously good. Everything in moderation. I'm referring to the kind of fear that holds us back from achieving our dreams and from taking constructive risks, because in those cases we are missing out and possibly even losing great opportunities.
So I am telling you to ignore your fear that is holding you back from socializing, from joining that club, or from following your dream- because in the end either you go after it or you don't- and the outcome will affect nobody but you. Nobody will ever know.
And one or two or several failures will not stop you from being successful.
There have been so many times that success stories were first failure stories. Starbucks was denied from banks like 200 something times, J.K Rowling was turned down by multiple publishing companies before Harry Potter was even just considered, Usher turned down Justing Bieber's offer to sing for him the first time Justin met Usher, etc.
How to stop being afraid:
Ignore the negative thoughts, Just stop thinking them. This takes time and practice and determination and perseverance and will sometimes drive you crazy but you DONT. GIVE. UP!!!! (Meet the Robinsons reference!!)
Every time a negative thought starts creapin' up on you, you do your kung-fu-slash move on that crap (false language included for seriousness purposes) and move on with your life. Seriously though, sing a song or say a prayer or whatever and move on with your shit.
And that's it.
You just get rid of the negative thoughts and focus on what you need to do. Pretty soon, the negative thoughts go away . . . and without negative thoughts, we get good shit done.
So good luck with all of that and don't forget that at the end of the day- either it happens or it doesn't. It's your life- take it into your own hands.
Good luck!
However, every time I imagine myself performing in front of people, I get nervous and feel like there is no possible way that I will be able to overcome my fear of performing in front of a crowd.
Being that I was in the middle of studying and couldn't write a blog post right away, I wrote myself a little side note:
"Never be afraid
Just have confidence
Because when you screw up, nobody will know what you really have
Nobody will care"
I realized that if I don't just force myself to ignore my fear (I will post tips for this below) and won't act with confidence, I will never get anywhere with my music. Psht, I will never get anything done that makes me intimidated in the slightest bit.
If I don't have confidence when singing (or doing anything- apply this to your situation), then my voice will not come off as very strong and the quality of my music won't be all that great. Nobody will ever know what I'm actually capable of. I will never be able to give them my best. My real ability will go to waste because nobody will know about it BECAUSE I was too nervous while singing. And in the end, nobody will care because nobody will KNOW.
I don't want my possible success to be cut short because of fear.
I often think about the quote. "There is nothing to fear but fear itself"- Franklin Roosevelt
It is so true.
Unless of course, one is afraid of jumping off of a building or is afraid of petting a bear- that kind of fear is obviously good. Everything in moderation. I'm referring to the kind of fear that holds us back from achieving our dreams and from taking constructive risks, because in those cases we are missing out and possibly even losing great opportunities.
So I am telling you to ignore your fear that is holding you back from socializing, from joining that club, or from following your dream- because in the end either you go after it or you don't- and the outcome will affect nobody but you. Nobody will ever know.
And one or two or several failures will not stop you from being successful.
There have been so many times that success stories were first failure stories. Starbucks was denied from banks like 200 something times, J.K Rowling was turned down by multiple publishing companies before Harry Potter was even just considered, Usher turned down Justing Bieber's offer to sing for him the first time Justin met Usher, etc.
How to stop being afraid:
Ignore the negative thoughts, Just stop thinking them. This takes time and practice and determination and perseverance and will sometimes drive you crazy but you DONT. GIVE. UP!!!! (Meet the Robinsons reference!!)
Every time a negative thought starts creapin' up on you, you do your kung-fu-slash move on that crap (false language included for seriousness purposes) and move on with your life. Seriously though, sing a song or say a prayer or whatever and move on with your shit.
And that's it.
You just get rid of the negative thoughts and focus on what you need to do. Pretty soon, the negative thoughts go away . . . and without negative thoughts, we get good shit done.
So good luck with all of that and don't forget that at the end of the day- either it happens or it doesn't. It's your life- take it into your own hands.
Good luck!
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